The One That Got Away

I had hard days recently, trying to deal with a bitter, harrowing loss. After having been through days feeling angry, disappointed, and confused, I finally come to just accept, that time does have the power after all. Time has given me the answers, so it will finally let me understand and forgive wholeheartedly. 

Anyway, while thinking about it, I recalled that I once have read a very interesting article reposted on Facebook  
all the reason I should learn to understand in order to let go.

Please sit back and relax for a while and read this. It might get you contemplating afterwards. 

And always remember what Miss Monroe once said: sometimes good things fall apart, so better things can fall together. Sometimes "the one" gets away, so you finally can be with "the better one". So, yeah, why should I be worried? Prost! :)

The One That Got Away

In your life, you’ll make note of a lot of people. Ones with whom you shared something special, ones who will always mean something. There’s the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your virginity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one you’re with…and the one that got away.

Who is the one that got away? I guess it’s that person with who everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong. There was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn't fall the right way, I suppose.

I believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a longtime partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person. I can actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with the matter of timing. It has to do with you being ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little niceties of giddy romance.

How often have you gone through it without even realizing it? When you’re not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesn't matter who you’re with, it just doesn't work. Small problems become big; inconsequentials become dealbreakers simply because you’re not ready and it shows. It’s not that you and the person you’re with are no good; it’s just that it’s not yet right, and little things become the flash-point of that fact

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Then one day you’re ready. You really are. And when this happens you’ll be ready to settle down with someone. He or she may not be the most perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life, but it’ll work because you’re ready. It’ll work because it’s the right time and you’ll make it work. And it’ll make sense, it really will.

So that day comes when you’re finally making sense of things, and you find yourself to be a different person. Things are different, your approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you want, and you've become ready because the time has truly arrived. And mind you, there’s no telling when this day will come.

(The original article "The One That Got Away" was written by Mark J. Macapagal for The Manila Times)

 

 Inspired by: O.P.S (Orissa Sofyan)